Things People With Disabilities Wish You Knew

Things People With Disabilities Wish You Knew


– I so often hear people send the message like thank God that’s not me when they see someone with a disability or like thank God that’s not me or my kid. And that’s sending the message that disability is equal to
someone who is less than or broken or incomplete
and that’s not the case. (upbeat music) – I have Cerebral Palsy. It affects me pretty
much from the hips down and also just like fine motor
control and things like that. – So I have Tourette Syndrome which is a neurological disorder which means I do movements and noises that I can’t control. – I have Cerebral Palsy
as well left Hemiparesis and Nystagmus which means that my whole left side is weaker than my rights. – I have a very aggressive form for Lupus. And I have a blood clotting
disorder associated with my Lupus and four years
ago I had a clot in my foot. And then this happened
and over eight months and 11 surgeries, this was the end. (upbeat music) – I… love having Tourette’s. I love that I’m four foot, seven. I love my obsessive compulsive disorder. And I think that’s the
case that many of us have embraced our disabilities. – I’ve had my disabilities
since I was born and it’s a part me. – My brain is quick and witty
and wildly inappropriate. And it also has Tourette’s
and at some point I decided not to just
love parts of my brain. (upbeat music) A lot of times I see kids staring at me. That’s OK with me. – I welcome it, kids are curious. – But what I struggle
with is when a parent shushes them or quickly pulls
them in the other direction. – When a child is hustled
away from a person or hushed, it stigmatizes
even just asking the question. – Because kids then associate disability with feeling ashamed. – If they’ve never seen
anything like this before they’re gonna look and if
they questions let them ask. There’s nothing wrong with that. – So instead I hope that
parents say things like: How cool that we all move differently and walk differently and talk differently. More than just like normalizing disability but celebrating it. We date, people with disabilities date! And not always other
people with disabilities. – Just because I have I disability doesn’t mean I have to be paired with
somebody with a disability. – Direct message to everyone in my life but if you’re gonna set
me up on a blind date please have more criteria than this guy also has a disability. (upbeat music) – Not every single
person with a disability is in a wheelchair. I am not in a wheelchair. I’ve never been in a wheelchair. (upbeat music) – If one more person
calls me an inspiration after just meeting me, I’m
gonna burn your house down. – We aren’t inherently
inspirational or brave because we are disabled. We’re just kind of the idea that people think about what when they say that. – It’s OK to call me an
inspiration once you know me. Or know something about me. But genetics does not
make me an inspiration. Let me earn that word. – There are people who are actually doing amazing, brave things out there. Whether they have a disability or not. – But it comes across
to a disabled person as: wow I’m so happy that
I’m not in your shoes. (upbeat music) – I get a lot of strangers
trying to help me. Up the steps by grabbing my
arm or my waste or something. And that’s extremely inappropriate. – You can say hey do you need some help? Rather than just either forcing
my chair or ignoring me. (upbeat music) It took me awhile to actually call myself a person with a disability. But I’m a person first. Being an amputee is secondary. – I rather have somebody say
I’m a person with a disability rather than being disabled because of the whole control and ownership issue. – I hear differently abled. The word is disability. – They used to call myself
like differently abled and some people didn’t like that. And I’m just like, but I am different and their like no you’re not and it took me awhile to actually see that I was using very able-bodied terms. – It should be a descriptor. Just like I’m right-handed,
I have a disability. (upbeat music) When we’re talking about
disabilities I hear the word that we wanna be
accommodating, which is great. Or we’re working on tolerance. Nobody wants to just be tolerated. Like I tolerated those
three years my sister was learning to play the trombone. I tolerate going to the dentist. None of these things are things I like, they’re things I tolerate because I know that I have to deal with. So there’s such an important
step in communities between opening the door to
somebody with a disability and like embracing them and building a community
with them in mind. (upbeat music)

100 comments on “Things People With Disabilities Wish You Knew

  1. Fayt3 Post author

    I have a mild form of turrets and kids at my school or any kids anywhere some times make fun of me ??☹️???☹️??

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  2. harlyn hart Post author

    wait im confused when the 1 lady said 'im right-handed i have a disability' im just lyin in my bed like 'what?'

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  3. Moldy Fireflies Post author

    Y r all of these disabilities physical? Mental disabilities are just as important

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  4. Alyssa Hopkins Post author

    Thank you! I have Tuberous Sclerosis Complex and people can have it in mild all the way to severe form where they’re nonverbal. I’m moderate, I guess, because I have epilepsy, but I’m able to walk and talk and live unassisted unlike some other TSC warriors. My fiancé says I’m his hero because of what I’ve gone through in my life, but I know other people have it worse and I’m thankful that I’m finally getting some control from my VNS.

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  5. Christopher Crespo Post author

    Hey instead of typing a comment about a subject you nothing about, follow my series, @HandJobsSeries, on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram & YouTube! I was in the last Cripple video.

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  6. Labradorable Retriever Post author

    Interesting video. And as suggested, invisible disabilities should be on there. I have a epilepsy but I’m talking about people who have things on a different level that somebody isn’t really going to see unless they understand it. I’m also blind and have a guide dog. So I did like this video. Glad these people love them selves and love the disability. But I think I’m just going to love myself and still hate the disability. You have your off days when you feel limited when you can’t hop into your car or get on your bicycle to get somewhere. Wait for that bus or taking that long walk, those are your only two options. Well unless you wanna pay a lot of money for a cab, or possibly wait a couple of hours for one if you live in a smaller area. Those are the off day thoughts. But yes the bigger problem isn’t our just like for the disabilities, as much as it is the general public. We hate them more, because able-bodied people take things for granted make us feel ashamed. Society is built that way unfortunately.

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  7. erika montes Post author

    i was born with cerebral palsy… i had one surgery on my right hip and i had two surgeries on both on my eyes… should i be ashamed?

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  8. Joanne Barrera Post author

    I liked the video because of the sweet quirky Tourettes woman ?
    “If you call me an inspiration five minutes after meeting me, im going to burn your house down” lolol

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  9. India Woods Post author

    I wish people knew that disabilities aren't always a thing you can see. You don't need to PROVE that you are disabled if it's not a visible disability

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  10. D_o_n_t_f_o_r_g_e_t_h_e_k_i_d_s _g_a_c_h_a Post author

    I have A.D.H.D and that is hard enough but I also have depression

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  11. SpongeBob TrianglePants Post author

    My brothers have a disease called SMA and they have to use a wheel chair. They will also have a different body when they grow up because they can’t walk at all

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  12. Karla Martinez Post author

    I have osgood-schlatter and people just…UGH! They're pretty annoying when they ask question.

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  13. connor cookie Post author

    the girl with tourettes is actually hilarious i’ve instantly fell in love with her

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  14. Hayoon R Post author

    my friend had minor tourettes (I think that's how you spell it) but sometimes people still noticed and once someone tried to help hef climb TWO stairs and she got really pissed so i just gently tapped the oerson on the shoulder and said, "u know… her legs still work perfectly fine." and that persons reaction was absolutely priceless.

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  15. Abby Barnhart Post author

    dont warrie about what people say just be your self like i doe cuss with a hole in the hart i think i have a good life b/c i igenor what the haters say!<3

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  16. IJustWantToBeACat Post author

    One of my friends has a disability and so does my dad so it’s nice to learn what they think bc I never thought to ask ????♥️

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  17. Sprinklefan fan Post author

    My little sister is disabled and when people give her looks I just wanna yell at them like what you looking at. She has spinal muscular atrophy type 1. She can barely do anything for herself and when I see people give her looks I just wanna yell at them. I get they are curious is just that they act like they are a different species.

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  18. Dungeon of despair Post author

    I agree but one they left out is people have a tendency to not let disabled people tell their stories physical or none physical I have both. my own mother treats me worse than most people in this regard we usually get shoved aside and don't even get me started on dating while disabled loved that don't set up with people strictly because they are disabled

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  19. Jade Ferra Post author

    Honest question here, I really don't interact much with people with disabilities, they're just not in my circle- but when I see disabled people I don't want to stare or bother them, it's genuinely not because I'm sorry for them or anything, but because I don't want to treat them differently or make them uncomfortable. I wouldn't want to be stared at or asked a bunch of questions all day by kids, but at the same time I would like to help if I can. I have a family member with cerebral palsy and there's no issues because I personally know her, but with strangers I don't want to assume they need my help or bother them… What's the line? How can I be helpful without being awkward or condescending? :/

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  20. TARAdaycatal or Tara if your normal Post author

    Glad me asking if someone i a chair ( or walker) is ok. I always feel they know THEIR BODY so i ask how can i help. Because my vision of helping and theirs might be way off.

    You all helped me today on wording cause i think thats the issue at times.

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  21. Dina Hakim Post author

    Hey I’m Legally blind and I have a guide dog named Willis and I also have a learners disability good thing you guys are doing this video we should do more of it or you should do

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  22. Dina Hakim Post author

    And yes I am not ashamed loud and proud that’s what I say I wouldn’t change my legally blind Ness at all

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  23. Alec Hyre Post author

    I love this video…. as someone with CP I heavily endorse all of these… also to the girl in the video with the black hair… what’s up???

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  24. Anthony L. Post author

    You guys are sooo strong ??? I wouldn’t do it. Wow you guys impressed how positive you are ??go gurl !!!!

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  25. Deeba A. :D Post author

    I have ullrich congenital muscular dystrophy. I also have scoliosis and lung issues but my heart is fine. I have to wear a brace around my torso even though I don’t want to. I also wear Ankle foot orthotics and I’m supposed to use splints at night but I really hate them. I use a BiPap machine at night and a lung volume requipment. I’m also in a wheelchair. And sometimes random people will say that I’m “Lucky”. Like tf man I’m not ok? It ain’t easy. I also get mad when people assume I broke my leg. I even sometimes listen to music that’s dark and stuff. Sometimes I even get a little depressed from this but I’m still a human. I still go to school. I still do some things you guys do. I’m thankful to have supportive friends and family.

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  26. Emma Jones Post author

    Jehovah God promise that there will be no more pain or suffering read this in your bible at Revelation 21:4 for more information visit our website at JW.org and type in the search box the word suffering.

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  27. Adam Baket Post author

    Disabilty is not always visible. "Mr. Social Security" YouTube channel have great TIPS & TRICKS on how to get disability benefits. Just wanted to share to everyone. Check it out.

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  28. r b Post author

    As a white man with a major disability, one thing that absolutely annoys me is when able-bodied people tell me I am privileged because I'm white. Who are you to tell me that being disabled is not the equivalent of being an oppressed minority?

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  29. slidesandspoons Post author

    disAbled. differently abled. no its disabled, disability. its not a scary or gross word!

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  30. Jjj Ww Post author

    I adopted my son who has CP when he was 8 months old — out of all of my ups and downs in life and wondering why I couldn't achieve, when I failed – set my life on a course to intersect with his — and GOD blessed me — he makes me a good father — we laugh – and joke – and play – and travel — we experience joy – fear – hardships, but we do this together — he makes my life and I love him so much — My whole life was meant to be part of his… & that is a great thing!

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  31. Aly P Post author

    I've never actually met people who have disabilities get offended by peoples questions unless the questions is totally inappropriate or too personal

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  32. Huthmeister Post author

    I actually know hannah as my mother works with a company called Acting Without Boundaries for people who want to act with disabilities. And she is one of the actors who is heavily involved. Such a great person and has a beautiful singing voice.

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  33. Cara Sachs Post author

    Awesome awesome AWESOME video!!! And…people have different feelings about person first (person with a disability) vs. identity first (disabled person) language. I’m disabled and I absolutely prefer that. Disabled does not mean “not able”. It means “prevented from functioning” – like when you disable a program on your computer, it’s still there. Moving through my life as a disabled person is part of my identity, it shapes how I experience the world, and I’m good with that. I am ABSOLUTELY grateful for my disabilities (hEDS primarily, with some of its friends). I would t be where I am and doing the things I’m doing if I wasn’t disabled. Does that mean I love being in pain 24/7? Oh hell no. But that’s not a requirement for love or gratitude. It’s like – you can be head over heels in love with you dog, but not love that they shed a ridiculous amount and you end up with hair in your mouth all the time.

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  34. Skiddly dongdongdong dang Post author

    I just hate everyone

    It doesnt matter whether that person is disabled or not

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  35. Emily McCoy Post author

    I have a ton of disabilities and brain problems and I'm not comfortable because a lot of people are rude to me about it and I've lost my friend because she couldn't look me in the eyes because they are basically like Pennywise's because they constantly move and sometimes one is looking over here and the other is looking over there and she would never look me in the eye because of it. She also used to make me wear sunglasses around her so she wouldn't see it. I have a whole slew of other things but that's the most noticeable

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  36. Doublepump Post author

    The first thing she said was so insanely idiotic i i i i cant even anymore.
    No one wants a disability NO ONE! and she is like "if you say you dont want to be unable you're ……"

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  37. Fern Lulham Post author

    I am blind and there is so much I don't understand about the sighted world. I want to ask questions and learn about that! We should be curious, whoever we are. xxx

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  38. Viktor Birkeland Post author

    I get that you feel you need to be "strong", and that a disability doesn't make you less, but I would disagree. A disability by definition makes you less, because there is something broken or non-functioning about you and / or your body. I feel that setting this impossible standard, especially for newly disabled people, of having to be "normal", just as good as before the disability (for newly crippled individuals) and as good as everyone else by ignoring the disability is unhelpful. That can cause a LOT of unnecessary psychological problems and challenges! By the end of the day, a cripple is a cripple, he / she is by definition different, and less, in some ways, than a normal human being. Saying "differently abled" instead if disabled, crippled or lesser abled is just wishful thinking, and ignorance at work.

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  39. Kt Cat Post author

    I have a disability no one can see it's nice in the fact I can pass if I want to not pass
    No one believes that hurts more to me. I have incontractable migraines and Trigeminal neuralgia I hardly go out. I've been sick for 18 years I really can't take this anymore. I don't have any friends. The pain is worth it to hang out with my husband, Mom and niece. Thank you letting letting rambal on

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  40. linx arts Post author

    my disability is muscular dystrophy I have wheelchair but I can sometimes walk sometimes but sometimes I get pain in my legs this is not a joke I'm telling the truth so don't report me plz

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  41. Melaney Simar Post author

    Good gracious you all, I am a person with a disability. Sometimes I just want to scream stop treating me like I'm not here, not human, not able to speak, I do not have any speech impediment, yet I have had on more than one occasion had a server or sometimes stranger ask my husband did she like her food, where did she get that dress. Seriously talk to me. I have a niece who can not speak and we always thank people for speaking to her and explain that she doesn't verbalize. Err on the side of kindness.

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  42. Diezjah Campbell Post author

    I thought I was the only one that felt that way about parents pulling their kids away and saying shhhhh I rather them ask than stare

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  43. Kayden Gill Post author

    I really don't care if you say disabled person or person with a disability, but definitely not differently abled.

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  44. AEGEUS ِ Post author

    I’m 28 years old, So hard to live with disabilities. I have inborn heart disease, asthma, glaucoma(5 years half blind) sometimes I want to end my life I want to disappear for good? but I need to live and work hard for my family. I wish I have normal body so I can do whatever I want like hardcore sports & multiple jobs.

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  45. Red blooded American 0 Post author

    My top 5 favorite disabilities
    1. Turrets
    2. Dwarfism
    3. Gigantism
    4. Down syndrome
    5. Diabetes

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  46. Extremely obnoxious Person Post author

    Having a disability is the TSA stopping you everytime you pass through the damn metal detector

    Screw you truck driver I don’t care you ran me over because i got to skip school for three months but the TSA makes me want to hire agent 47 to shoot you

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  47. Max Post author

    okay to the first women…sorry but i have to ask… whats then a "disability" ? if its that what the word implements? I said that phrase to myself not in a sense of disrespecting people with disabilities/disorders or handicaps whatever you want to call it then – i'm thinkin it to myself because i couldn't bear it – one day and i'd crush under the circumstances – so i respect everybody thats handling his life with a disability

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  48. Seagan Taylor Post author

    There’s also that “invisible disability” gunk ?.
    someone who is blind could have had their disability been mistaken as a mental disability, if drs didn’t know what to look for and only saw someone fallowing walls and feeling out a new environment and other behaviors that someone who is blind without accommodations might do.
    Just because you don’t understand what a person is struggling with that results in different behaviors… that does not mean that their disability is invisible.

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  49. Mister Winkybluff Post author

    F*ckin THANK YOU. I’m so over people seeing a photo of a person online with disability (knowing nothing about them) and immediately comments how beautiful they are. I’m like… you don’t think they’re beautiful, you just feel like you have to say that to not seem ableist. And it’s actually mildly insulting. Every person with down syndrome is not automatically beautiful. Seems very disingenuous.

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  50. samreen abbasi Post author

    Well even i say im glad i dont have a certain disability. Its not to make the other person feel bad, but its meant for me, so that i feel grateful for what i have and not complain about what i dont have.

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  51. Justina Anderson Post author

    4:11
    "I'm right-handed. I have a disability"
    That stood out to me because I'm left-handed and I get told I have a disability so that kinda made me laugh XD

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