Intrusive Thoughts vs Thinking

Intrusive Thoughts vs Thinking


100 comments on “Intrusive Thoughts vs Thinking

  1. Mariana Fernandes Post author

    Awesome you approached these concepts! I had trouble understanding the difference before. Glad you posted this video! Thank you for all your awesome tools Mark! You made a huge difference in my life!

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  2. Trina Resendez Post author

    After almost beating this episode of harm/postpartum ocd I thank you so much because your videos helped me so much. When I was in a rough spot I’d just play your videos and instantly calm down. I hope to help others one day like you have. Thank you so much ?

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  3. Ryan Powell Post author

    Hey Mark! Is it normal to "feel" when an intrusive thought is about to come on? Someday's I'll get loads of them and I'll be able to feel when the next one is coming?

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  4. MrGatsby Post author

    This is both very true and useful. Also, the alpaca exampe is so hilarious!! hahahha with all the typical OCD examples (so its even accurate). Amazing Mark, as usual!!

    By the way, I have your book The Mind Workout, and I think its pretty useful. I think its a good way to start fast in ACT, CBT and mindfulness aspects, and I think its mostly precise. Perhaps I would have developed more the changing beliefs part, since its the foundation of everything else, as you explain in your videos.

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  5. Choppert Post author

    When you try to ignore an intrusive thought, does the pressure build up and feel impossible to do? And when you let go of the ignoring and react the 'normal' bad way it feels like a relieve?

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  6. Free Bird Post author

    @mark I have been putting all efforts to forget and not focus on the part of my self that I want to forget and ignore completely. but I am so much stressful of paying attention to it. brain thinks more the things that I ask to not think ever it thins if first.

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  7. geraud bartels Post author

    And once again, your videos show me a different way of seeing things that I’d never thought of before. Thanks for making them!

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  8. Kenneth Warner Post author

    Hey Mark, I've made a ton of progress with OCD in the past few months and I just want to say your videos have been an incredible asset in this process. Your videos are an invaluable resource, keep up the amazing work.

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  9. Kareem Gameel Post author

    Hey Mark. Why do we sometimes tend to like listening to the bad thoughts. Especially with the weird inappropriate ones, I find myself tempted to go with them and even expand it with my imagination to more horrific scenes as if I am enjoying it?!

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  10. V. H. Post author

    I still can't use this skill 24/7,but i had a very terrifying experience and this skill helped me a lot.Any time i read,saw or heared about a murdering and everything connected with it,my brain threw a picture of my parents connecting with it.And that was terrible.Than I started to ignore this urges and I didn't even realise that it's gone away.VERY important skill.

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  11. Johnathan Hartland Post author

    You're seriously changing my life! Thank you so much Mark, you really are helping us become Freeman ;D I think you were made to be free and help others become free, it's all in your name 😀

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  12. Ryan Scarborough Post author

    Thank you so much for your videos, Mark. You have helped me immensely in tackling my mental health struggles. I really appreciate it, and I hope you know you are doing excellent work with your channel.

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  13. Flow 888 Post author

    Hi Mark my ocd is getting bad within my thoughts. If I am the one thinking something I don't really want to think and I don't catch it quick enough I'll start to panic. My ocd says if it's not an intrusive thought and I'm actually the one thinking about something I don't want to think about then it's my fault and I need to gain better control of that. How do I deal with this?

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  14. Habib Post author

    But what if you're thinking and then an intrusive thought enters. As an example, me thinking "oh I dont mind alpacas, I would have sex with an alpaca" – clearly and obviously I would not do that, but does that count as an intrusive thought, or is that my own thinking?

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  15. Kareem Gameel Post author

    I have a question please. When i am in the car stuck in traffic or in the toilet, etc, i find my brain always thinking, either ruminating about the past, planning for the future, or imagining weird situations. when I catch my myself doing this I stop it, however, I don’t know what should I engage in instead; All the thinking options are unhealthy, and I cannot not think while waiting in traffic for 5 minutes or more. Is there a healthy thinking option? Or should i learn to go blank and think of nothing?

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  16. 1 2 Post author

    Hi mark, i have sufferd most of my life, i have been with my partner for 12 years, in that time i have fantasized about other women,some very close to my partner, the last month i have been suicidal as i beleave i have cheated mentaly, i google constantly, seek reasurance, 2 years ago i confessed i had fantasied about her sister sometimes, she stayed with me but it put me in hospital, because i have created these thoughts as stories in my head, how can i treat it as intrusive, the guilt of the memories of the mental infidelity hit me as soon as i wake, i love my partner and want to be with her only, confessing will hurt but im stuck in this rabbit whole

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  17. GW7 Post author

    Your videos has really helped me. I have struggled with OCD Intrusive Thoughts off and on almost my whole life. It's really annoying and I didn't understand it at first. I went a solid 5 years without them but they returned a few years ago. In about the middle of January, it started up and I found myself stuck in rumination. It's like one minute I'm fine and I know it's my OCD. Not me. And than the next I am back questioning and doubting myself because I started arguing again with that "guy" in my head. The way you explain it is very interesting. Basically it's like OCD is someone just shouting stuff at me, wanting to pick a fight, make me doubt myself. I really hate OCD.

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  18. joe sixtoe Post author

    The bible says to take every thought captive. I struggled with panic attacks and intrusive thoughts. Both fear of having a heart attack and suicidal intrusive thoughts. How can you be afraid of having a heart attack while at the same time have thoughts of suicide? It's weird. So I knew that wasn't me, and eventually I started replacing the thought immediately as it came to my mind. Within 24 hours of doing this both for heart attack fear and suicidal fear, they were gone. I had no constant thought of both. The sky was more blue, and the air was fresher. A cloud felt blown away out of my life. I can't say that it doesn't go away forever, as when I actually hurt a ligament in my chest, the heart attack thoughts came back, but they eventually subsided. After 6 years I got the suicidal thoughts and anxiety of everything around me back, but I take it a day at a time and I know they too will be gone again. It's just so hard to replace the thought all the time cause you want to engage with this thought. But I shouldn't. I need to stop. You can too get past this, cause I know I did..

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  19. Wan Meireles Post author

    Sometimes I wonder… 'what if I don't think about this problem and later it comes back stronger?'. I don't know if that makes sense, but it terrifies me.

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  20. tlukay Post author

    This is a good video and I just watched it again after some month back. I tend to 'forget' the useful tips you bring up in your various videos and had to go back to remind myself of them.. Not sure if this is healthy though. When I feel like the ocd thoughts are winning over me again, I sort of felt lost about the approach I need to take. Yes, mindfulness is the way to go, but I just can't seem to apply it for some reason when I'm too inside my head. Seems like going in circles – getting the hang of things and then falling back to my usual unhealthy compulsions and then reading up on how to be mindful, before finally getting back on my feet. How do I sustain that mindfulness approach?

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  21. OLarrea77 Post author

    I started meditation a few months ago and the last portion of this video opened my eyes. I was trying to use it to end the guy shouting when I should have been training my mind to not react.

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  22. Scar trader Post author

    Thanks Mark for all these educational videos and they have really opened my eyes but I would like to know that is it
    ok to watch your videos regularly and even the same videos again and again.Which usually happens when I encounter a serious set back and when I need a motivation to get back up? Because I start thinking where did I go wrong..and then again I watch videos to learn more about OCD..and One more thing does my life have to be focused on beating ocd ? like finding compulsions in the tiny tiny areas of my life all the time and resisting them ?

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  23. :::: Bier :::: Post author

    Hey I love your channel already and I’ve only watched 2 1/2 videos of yours lol. I have Aspergers so I’m susceptible to OCD and Anxiety. Do you have any tips for people such as myself dealing with both disorders. Thank you you’re doing Gods work even though I don’t believe in him:)

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  24. boo bie Post author

    i cant do it. i believe the things the "guy" is shouting are real
    how can i know they are real ? or unreal? or is it something he is shouting too ??
    i just cant do this. if i sit in silence it doesnt make the thoughts pop it gives me a headache becausr it feels like im suprrssing thoughts
    only when i think i feel like theyre not supressed but are mine to get involved with
    maybe im a unique case? its like if i sit and wait for thoughts to arrive they dont come i just feel them as a headache
    i have to write down "i think ______" but when i do it it makes me identify with them
    im so confused 🙁
    and i also have ptsd maybe it wont work for me
    help anybody:(?

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  25. victoria Post author

    Hi there! I had a question about the thought process I go through when judging thoughts. When I am in a social setting and I see something I don't like or hear something I don't like, I tend to start thinking about it and analyzing what it could mean. I tend to think that it can somehow end up threatening my relationship with someone. Wouldn't these kind of thoughts also be a defense mechanism? I think negatively about a situation so that IF the results turn out to be undesirable, I am not disappointed in the end and I already expected the worst.

    p.s thank you so much for putting these videos out and taking the time to really help out other people. I really appreciate it and I am sure that everyone else does too!

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  26. JoeySkate24 Post author

    I think thoughts are just unconcious happening without our command. And concious thinking happens with our command. If i havent decided to think of something then its just the mind doing its thing. Yes the one we have control over but the other one not but No matter which category it is the same principles apply.

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  27. Elliott Atkinson Post author

    Hi Marc how can I help myself with rumination on thoughts .. I get a thought in a morning then I start ruminating all day then it switches to another thought which I don't like just can't seem to get out of bad thought loop…thankyou

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  28. Duke Downard Post author

    Thank you so much for the awesome videos! I have been struggling with intrusive thoughts for a while and haven't really found a good way to deal with them. I still get the intrusive thoughts but am better equipped to deal with them thanks to you and your channel! Have you considered making a Patreon?

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  29. Felix Edler Post author

    Thank you. Two simple words that are saying so much from my point of view right now. Thank you.

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  30. M J Post author

    Thankyou so much. the alpaca part made me laugh even though I have been so down about the stuff my brain has been throwing at me lately.

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  31. lovingolatunji Post author

    Hey!! So I'm 13 and I'm basically 100% sure I have HOCD. My mum had very severe HOCD, had a breakdown thinking she had schizophrenia but ended up being diagnosed with HOCD. My brother had such severe OCD that he didn't speak for a year (possibly two), literally not even one word. So basically I have very bad family history of OCD. I hate it because I have violent intrusive thoughts and it makes me feel like I'm crazy or a terrible person. When I think about it, my anxiety becomes so insanely bad that I'll go into a panic attack (happens multiple times a day now) and start crying. I even start making voices in my head saying bad things and convincing myself it's someone else when it's really just me. I hate the urges you sometimes get too because I know I'd never act on these stuff or do anything to harm anyone. I really wanna know the psychology behind these thoughts and OCD in general. I only started getting bad intrusive thoughts yesterday. My mum's taking me to see someone in a couple of weeks but how do I deal with these in the meantime? and how do you recover from this? Therapy? Medication? Thank you so much for all your videos!! Your tips are so insanely helpful 🙂 Love ya. Nice to know that I'm not slowly going insane because that's how I've been feeling lately lmao

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  32. Caroline M Post author

    I can’t even explain how amazing thus video is.
    And the alpaca grandma sweater made me actually lol. And i’ve been spinning the rat wheel so that laugh was huge
    THANK YOU

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  33. Marty Martin Post author

    How do you overcome the fear of forcing yourself to do something. I Keep telling myself I will act out this thought and I won't let it go until I force myself to follow through with it and there's nothing I can do to stop it. It's tearing me apart.

    Also, how do you overcome the fear of just getting stuck on a thought in general? Its like I'm afraid to be stuck on a thought and I'm also afraid I'll force myself to be stuck on the thought forever…

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  34. Susan Burgess Post author

    What kind of meditation do you use besides mindfullness? Also, what if you have horrible ptsd? What do you think works best with the flashbacks from stuff that happened as a child?

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  35. Ludvik Jerabek Post author

    This was so great to listen to. OMG this alpaca ? analogy was spot on. Keep doing these videos they are so freakin relatable. The worst part is you believe the damn person that shouts at you and convince yourself he’s right.

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  36. Dedric Silva Post author

    My intrusive thoughts including fear of being gay and fear of hurting children when in reality i don't do any of those.

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  37. Gina Taylor Post author

    My favorite part is when you speak of how people tend to approach these techniques in a way that's trying to use them to get rid of bad thoughts. I've been in the Mental Health Community since I was 5 years old trying to get help for all of my conditions, especially my OCD. Demonizing symptoms and trying to get rid of them has been a constant theme that I've seen. It's very refreshing to see someone else advocate doing it the way you are saying. I'm used to people having bad reactions when I won't accept their advice that tells me to try and destroy my bad thoughts or just tune them out instead of trying to not engage. You're so right. Doing that is giving it attention and power. Thank you so much for this awesome video!!!!

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  38. Tona Murray Post author

    If a dude yells out that he loves you and youre gonna have a nice day, you should engage with that and say thanks brother

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  39. Kare star Post author

    Hi Mark, your videos have been really helpful. Thanks. I have a question, I usually get more OCD thoughts when Im angry, sad or under stress. Then it gets more complicated cause I feel like my OCD thoughts gets mixed with my thinking and then I dont know If I really did think of something negative. Then, I end up doing the compulsion or just wasting my time trying to analyze if I did something wrong or if it was just some intrusive thought. I always struggle with the doubt: What if I really said or think about that??

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  40. telepathic-hearts Post author

    Thank you so much honestly I feel so much better knowing that I can CHOOSE how much energy I want to waste into a thought and the realization alone is a peace of hope for me so thank u?

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  41. RICHARD WILLETT Post author

    Ive had this since I was 14, has led to binge drinking and alcoholism. I am suffering from this right now, and have harm OCD and Pure OCD. Horrible horrible mental health condition. Thanks for the channel, really helpful .

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  42. TomMFAO Post author

    Thanks for this, I need this right now! TOCD and POCD are destroying my life and I can't cope.

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  43. Mason Thompson Post author

    I know this video is old and you probably won't respond to this anymore, but I'm currently dealing with what I believe is pure ocd (mainly sexual ocd) and I have a thought pop up in my head but the question I keep thinking is. Was it intrusive or did I bring that up on purpose? Either way it's been giving me lots of distress and I'm hoping that its just the ocd trying to get at me.. is this normal?

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  44. Deathero Post author

    If your in a bad mental illness and someone starts shouting at you it is inevitable that you'll go over there immediately and start arguing with them?? I disagree i
    People may not do anything because they don't care so why go do something you Don t even have the energy and/or motivation to do?

    Edit look at 1:20 and see what the guy said

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  45. Beauty Eclipse Post author

    This is so helpful. My whole life people have told me you are in control of your thoughts. I always felt like there was something wrong with me because I couldn't control the thoughts popping up in my head. But realizing there is a difference in thinking and thoughts is a game changer.

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  46. Afreen Afzal Post author

    The ridiculousness of the alpacca example is literally what we experience and believe it to be true. Once I vocalize my thoughts I realize that they sound just like this alpacca story – but when it's in my head it feels so real.

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  47. Beth Caruso Post author

    Thanks for this video. The alpaca part is hilarious and so true how our minds work. I don’t know how many times I’ve had a thought and compared it to something in my past to confirm that thought must be true.

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  48. Damiano Post author

    Hi Mark! I would like to ask you a question. I'm trying to be as much mindful as possible during the day. When a thought pops up in my mind, I gently focus my awareness on the present moment. Meditation is really helping me with this process. The fact is that sometimes I feel these waves of anxiety or guilt or sudden negative thoughts and I shift my attention on reality as soon as I can. I'm a little bit afraid that this might be a thought suppression. Just wanted to know your opinion on this. Thanks

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  49. Lessandra r Post author

    so i have something that i need to ask. my thoughts are sporadic and i make connections a lot of the time that i have to write down instantly or act on it as soon as i can otherwise i lose it. as a creative and someone who researches and studies a lot, it worries me if i stop doing this. what do you suggest in this situation? i have attention deficit disorder so my working memory is not good.

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  50. Yashu Kumar Post author

    plz… help me ….i have ocd that said only i do this thing in world …i know it was not wrong but whrn i say it is not wronh it say but probably u r the only one to do thid…and this make me anxioud

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  51. Andrew Milton Post author

    Question, it’s not hard for me to stop ruminating about negative thoughts. Such as what if this happens or what if this happens. But a little harder to stop an intrusive thought when the scale is a bit higher like (what if you hurt this person) why is that?

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